How To Present Yourself On A Date

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by: Maria Graffam
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Date: Tue, 25 May 2010 Time: 8:15 AM
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If you have been on a number of dates, but nothing seems to work out for you, you may want to ask yourself whether you are basing your behavior on misunderstandings. Often, the informal rules of behavior will change but the beliefs about what is and is not right will not change to keep up. You may be following myths for behavior that are hurting your dating chances. Let's compare myths with reality.

Myth: Don't talk about yourself on a date. If you talk about yourself, your date will think you are boring and conceited.

Reality: Now, you don't want to go 'on and on' about yourself of course. But, you do want to provide your date with a way to know more about you! Your date cannot gauge whether they think you will be a good potential partner without information.

Don't worry about seeming like you are focused on yourself. You can prevent issues with this if you ask your date questions about themselves as well. This also signals to them that you are interested in getting to know them better.

Myth: If you are friends with someone first, this helps in developing a relationship.

Reality: When people are friends, they are relaxed around each other and interact easily. You'd think this would help a relationship, but in fact it can make it harder to form a romantic interest in someone. Romance is helped along by a little mystery, a sense of discovery, and some nervous anticipation. Dating your old friend can seem far too familiar for that delicious uncertainty to develop.

Myth: When you are out on a date, order a salad. This shows your date that you take care of yourself.

Reality: If you order the salad, but you wanted to steak, you are not being honest with your date about who you are. Better to let them see more of the 'real you' than to hide behind a false front of self-denial.

Also, ordering the salad when this is not your taste can suggest to the other person that you are trying too hard or are being fake. They may wonder if you are trying to seem like something that you are not. They may also wonder if you are overly cautious or restrained with your food choices, does this mean that you are also overly cautious or restrained in other areas of your life.

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